Should You Surprise Her?

Enter a famous diamond store and observe the nervous men blinded by hundreds of shiny diamonds, anxious about their budget and armed with little information about what kind of engagement ring would their partner like. They would like to surprise her, but they do not know how to do that.

The most important advice is never to surprise her with an engagement ring, and not to buy something as per your own taste.

If she absolutely hates the ring you have chosen, you will feel hurt and resentful. This would not be the way you would like to begin your relationship. Do not forget that she will be wearing this ring for the rest of her life, so she should really love it. If you are determined to surprise her, then do some research on her personal style and preferences.

The objective of presenting an engagement ring is to let her see how determined you are to marry her. This in turn will help to influence her love and affection towards you. Some men have an impression that she will love you more if you spend a fortune on her engagement ring. But this is not true. In fact, an engagement ring symbolizes the purity and strength of love between two people.

So the most important question is how do you get her the ring she wants without sacrificing the element of surprise?

I would say that men should look for hints and educate themselves about what she likes before purchasing the ring. A few hints are given below:

  Does she like wearing jewelry at all?

  If she does wear jewelry, does she tend to favor large or small jewelry?

  Is she interested more in size or quality?

  Does she wear simple designs or more unique pieces?

  Does she like diamonds, or does she prefer other gemstones?

  Does she prefer modern or traditional jewelry?

  What color of metal does she like? Does she favor white gold, yellow gold, two-tone (white and yellow gold) or platinum?

  Be attentive when she admires someone else’s jewelry. Observe how she reacts to other women's engagement rings?

  Which advertisements or photographs of jewelry she admires?

There could be some other considerations also. Her occupation could also determine the selection of the engagement ring. Some of the considerations are:

  If her job involves too much outdoor activity, then look for a more durable and tamper-resistant ring.     

  Rings with lots of pointy edges are not good for a woman who will be dealing with small children.    

  Women who type want rings with evenly distributed weight. This is to make sure that the pounding does not make the ring turn downward or stay lopsided all day.

Try to build a rapport with her girlfriends and female relatives. A detailed discussion with them about her likes and dislikes would eventually give you a fair estimate of her preferences. This will give you a place to start, and whether you buy the ring with or without her, you will have a much better idea of her preferences.

If you have done sufficient research on her preferences and bought a ring as per her taste, then there are ways to surprise her with the presentation. A few of them are:

  Give her a gift box full of cards expressing why you love her. The ring would lie beneath the last card.

  Give her a red rose with the ring buried in it.

  Put the ring on her finger while she is sleeping.

  Cook dinner for her and serve the ring in the last course.

  Give her a box of her favorite chocolates with the ring stacked in the center.

Remember that she will love whatever you select for her, as long as it comes from the heart. But it is always nice when both the partners are involved in choosing the ring and it is a great way to start off the marriage.